The relationship lasted for about 6 months (I think) and years later, I've come to realize how silly and stupid I was for having the reaction I did. Grit your teeth, accept it, act classy and show grace to the outside world. She is also the author of her new divorce novel with the same name, as well as her other divorce novel, FREE GIFT WITH PURCHASE. Pilossoph is a weekly business features reporter and columnist for Sun-Times Media.
I hated them and everyone else who I thought could possibly know about their relationship. I thought about them giggling and laughing and kissing and being blissfully happy. The fact that this girl did this to you is probably making you feel insecure about girl friendships. They will assure you that they are your best friends and that you are loved. A good friend used to say to me, "You're on your own road. " Lastly, if you are on the other end of this, meaning if you are the one who starts dating your friend's ex, PLEASE handle it this way. Jackie Pilossoph is the author of the blog, Divorced Girl Smiling.
Lots of people have told me unequivocally that they would never date a friend's ex.
They wholeheartedly believe that it's wrong, disrespectful, and if a friend did that to them, they'd never talk to that person again.
Jennifer Aniston and bestie Courtney Cox were both romantically linked with Counting Crows frontman Adam Duritz - and Katy Perry and Taylor Swift both had relationships with John Meyer (though that one did cause Bad Blood).
Simply say, “Look, I just thought you should know that (their exes name) and I have gone on a few dates.
I think, "My ex is dating my friend" is very common, especially if you live in the suburbs, where everyone knows everyone. I remember people in my neighborhood would tell me they saw them out and I would seriously cringe, and then go home and cry. Make sure not to react in front of others because it could get back to your ex and your friend (I mean, your ex friend).
What they are doing is really uncool and unacceptable.
Your ex and "your friend" are the ones who should feel stupid, NOT YOU! Their relationship is working because of the "scandalous and forbidden" element. When that wears off, and everyone in the community moves on to the next piece of gossip, and your ex and your friend really get to know each other, the appeal will fade. He or she could be doing this to you to act out his or her passive aggressive anger.
While many would say the ideal solution is to avoid run-ins completely, in many cases it's just not possible, especially when there are overlapping friends, locations, and events.
If you find yourself in this situation, you need to be prepared.