Years ago, I dated a guy with undiagnosed bipolar disorder. When low, his habit of stumbling out of bed to browse porn as the kettle boiled, or spending hours trawling the profile pictures of escorts had me convinced he had some sort of addiction issues.A few months into our relationship, I dragged him off to sex therapy because of his seemingly uncontrollable behaviour. Up until the escort point, I’d thought that the other signs – the spending sprees, sporadic drug-taking, or staying up all night to work - were nothing more than foils to his ample creativity.Bipolar disorder is more than just good and bad moods.When Patty Duke passed away recently, we lost more than a talented actress or a likable personality — we lost an advocate for bipolar disorder awareness.Javier Bardem’s character, Uxbal, is dealing with several issues – terminal cancer, a past full of bad decisions, immense guilt and – an ex-wife, Marambra.Now, you’d think that an ex-wife is the least of his troubles, but in this case, she is a woman who suffers from bipolar disorder, which also leads to some bad choices on her part like alcoholism, promiscuity, and obviously, bad parenting.Most of us have ups and downs in life, and while we feel all gung-ho on some days, some others may have us feeling lower than usual.
Bipolar disorder is a lifelong disease with no apparent cure, although it can be managed to a great extent with proper care and the right combination of drugs.
Ten years later, I published a book about our marriage, and have had a lot of sleepless nights and many lessons learned about loving someone with bipolar disorder. When your partner is diagnosed, you won't know what's coming.
Even if you understand mental illness (I was already struggling with anxiety and depression when my husband was diagnosed), you don't know what it's going to look like in a particular person.
In her revealing autobiography, , Duke shared the horrors and secrets of her life.
One of the most shocking of these secrets was the fact that she was suffering from a serious mental illness called (at the time) manic depression.