While a girl could get me to put in more effort by withdrawing a bit, I am ultimately not looking for a relationship and my effort is only going to go so far. I’ve been successfully manipulated into relationships too.In the end, they’ve failed because I knew in my mind, heart and gut that it wasn’t what I wanted and as much as I tried to numb myself into wanting the relationship, I couldn’t kid myself.He often claims that more is less but that only applies to him.The more you think you are finding out about him the less he is likely to want to tell you.I’m not looking for that and when that starts coming up, I scale my presence in her life back considerably – I don’t want things to turn into a relationship and therefore I withdraw. I’ve pushed her away and now I’m going to lose her. my goal being that I’d like to return to “stasis” – that perfect sweet spot of comfortable company and sexual satisfaction without having to tie myself down to any relationship.Then, inevitably, the girl starts to get upset, frustrated, confused, etc. My point here: My goal is to maintain the stage before exclusivity and relationship happens. I’m clear on this and it’s practical for where I am in my life right now.Of course, I realize every man is unique, but these are just some features that I notice a lot. And they don't want to feel obligated to do anything!
He may at times slip up and let you know something but it wont be much and he will do his best to make sure that it does not happen often.What I mean is that I like them right where they are…I know she’s not interested in hooking up with other guys, we see each other regularly enough (one a week or so) and when we’re together it’s nice, but there’s no feeling of exclusivity or dependency. The girl starts becoming attached to me, missing me and wanting to become more “official”.You, for instance, may have expectations of how your boyfriend should react to something based on the way that you would react.When he reacts differently than you expect, you might be interpreting it as a personal insult or something, when really it may just be his different way of handling things.